How Jay Shetty reminded me where real confidence comes from

Hi friend,

Last night, something inside me shifted.

I was sitting in the crowd at Jay Shetty’s Toronto show, heart wide open. His words were full of truth, but one moment in particular brought me face-to-face with a part of myself I didn’t realize I’d abandoned:

I’ve heard versions of this before. You probably have, too.
But this time… I felt it.

Because here’s the thing:
Most of us spend our lives looking outward for signs that we’re enough.

We want the nod.
The like.
The job title.
The “I’m proud of you.”
The “you’re doing great.”
The evidence that we’re worthy of being seen and accepted.

But external validation is like standing under a leaky faucet when there’s a full well inside you.
It’s slow. It’s unpredictable. And it’s never quite enough.

Jay’s reminder landed like a truth I had forgotten:
Confidence doesn’t come from being liked. It comes from being aligned.

When your actions reflect your values - when you know you showed up with integrity, effort, kindness, courage -
You don’t need someone else to clap for you.
You clap for yourself.

Validation becomes something you generate, not something you chase.

And when that shift happens -
You start showing up differently.
You take bolder steps.
You stop overexplaining.
You say no without guilt.
You rest without shame.
You create without permission.

So if no one told you this today:
You are already enough.
Not when you get the promotion.
Not when your post goes viral.
Not when they finally see your worth.

Now.
As you are.
Today.

And the moment you begin to believe that, truly -
The outside world starts to matter a lot less.
Because you’ve already come home to yourself.

Ask yourself today:
Am I building my worth from the inside out - or waiting for someone else to hand it to me?

With love,
Violeta